Recently I read an article and watched a video from the CNN website. The article is about the “Sissy Boy Experience”. The article talks about a government funded therapy that is intended to transform feminine males into more masculine males. (Wow!) In the article, CNN spoke about parents that had enrolled their feminine sons in the therapy. I can only pray that these men can move forward from such cruelty and ignorance.
It is shameful that people have to go through so much, just because of who they are! In some ways I feel similar to these men, although I was never forced to go through therapy but I have definitely experience the torture of people; People using scripture to embarrass me or discredit my character. I thank God that I have been able to move on from it, and I pray that they will be able also. …..
So….I’m riding home from the gym this morning, listening to the Frank and Wanda Morning Show on V103(which is my morning ritual) and they are discussing an article that was in Forbes and the Atlanta Journal Constitution. FRANK AND WANDA
To my understanding, the article was stating that 59% of parents are supporting their adult children…. (WHAT!?!) Yes, you read it correctly! When they first started discussing this, I thought they were referring to “adult children” that are still in college but NO! They are referring to adults ranging up to 39 years old. (WHAT!?!)
Now I’ve heard of parents taking care of their kids but DAMN! When Frank started talking about the article, he was livid. Wanda, being the comedian and motherly soul, was trying to reason the issue. (I guess a mother would see it a little different!) One the other hand, I totally agreed with Frank. I couldn’t understand it.
There was a lady that called in that said that she was “playing the game” with her parents and continued to say that when she was a child she would not clean her room because she knew that after awhile her mother would “get tired of seeing it dirty, and clean it up herself”. (What?!? My mother wouldn’t have told me to clean that room once, and after that, she was going to get something that was going to MAKE me clean that room!)
They, (Frank and Wanda) went on to say how this is only setting the children up for failure. I think that is a very soft way of putting it because to me, it is setting them up for destruction. The reason I say this is because….if I’m used to my parent(s) taking care of me, what life lessons have I learned? I know that parents don’t want their kids to struggle but in your struggle is where you find your strength. If you are dependent on your parents, what if something happens to them? You don’t know how to survive on your own, then you have kids and aren’t able to teach them how to survive and the cycle just continues. Which goes back to what I said, “Destruction"
I would like to know your opinion on this matter so please comment or hit me up on Twitter!
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that sometimes you need help from others but assistance is not dependency!(My mother knows that I wouldn’t call her to help me with nothing! I know she would but I never do. I’ve even been in a situation where I was homeless and she never even knew! Well she does now, if she reads this! )
I have so much I want to say on this topic but I’m going to close. Definitely let me know your thoughts on this. Is it wrong? Is it right? Do you support your children? Why?
Until next time; remember that “Death and LIFE are in the power of the tongue” Jermaine Sain When We Speak TV
To some people music is only rhythmic tunes that encourage them to wiggle and shake their bodies, but for me, music is the most valuable expression of my being. I walk and talk music all day, (not for a living- YET) but every moment of my life has music. When I awake in the morning I'm awakening to sounds on the alarm as the crowd in my dreams starts to sing along with the song that's playing in reality. When I get in the shower, I'm singing my morning prayer to the Lord, whether it's a gospel hymn or simply a prayer that is in my heart. On my way to work, you can see me jamming to the Hip Hop tunes as I anticipate what Frank and Wanda (V103) will talk about today. Finally, when I've arrived at work LATE, I sit at my desk and put the Media Player on random and jammed to everything from Soul to Country to Gospel to Hip Hop to Blues to Rock, and everything in between.
Today was no different than any other day but when I put those headphones in at work, I immediately realized that it was MUCH different. I was a little stressed at work so I used the music to help soothe me while I worked diligently. In the middle of my work I started to hear one of my favorite Rachelle Ferrell songs start to play (I Can Explain). After came a Ledisi song (and you know those two girls can "sang"). Rachelle Ferrell Ledisi
Then to my surprise, the next song that played was a song that I was very familiar with. It was Lose Myself performed by Marsha Ambrosius. I had already heard her version before now, and I had also heard Lauryn Hill's version. Since I love Lauryn so much, I instantly said that I didn't like Marsha's version but when I took the time to listen to it again today, I realized that Marsha's version gave me an opportunity not only to hear the song but to listen to it! MARSHA AMBROSIUS LAURYN HILL
Lauryn Hill is a very gifted writer and vocalist that I admire, which is why it was hard for me to give Marsha any credit for her interpretation of the song but then I had to realize that both these girls are different people. Therefore, it's only natural that they would interpret the song differently! CLICK THE VIDEOS BELOW TO HEAR THE TWO VERSIONS
When I listened to Marsha's version, for the second time, it really "ministered" to me. It made me recall the times that I was searching for love in all the wrong places. It even made me appreciate my partner even more. I began to thank God for allowing me to feel such a great love from another human being. There's a part in the song where she says, "...took a pure love and tried to make it dirty". BOY! I TELL YOU! that thang almost made me scream because at that point, it had gone deeper than just love for another human being. By this time I was thinking about some personal experiences that I've had regarding my love for my gift and for God.
I started recalling times when people (in and out of church) would make me feel like I was doing everything, only for a show. I love attention but when I do a work for God I'm only doing it to please Him and not for the "attention".
Then, as the song continued to talk to my heart, it came to me- "If you want to prosper in your gift, you have to lose yourself in it, the same way you did in order to find love."
That thing was like a word directly from the Lord. I wish I could continue and tell you more but I must go. I just want to leave you with this one thing.
In order to find love, you have to lose yourself in love....meaning you have to let go of the old you, and allow the love that you need to come in. You will never be open to love if you don't allow yourself to let go of the ones that never even deserved you!